So, with the holidays tucked away and a new year before me, I've been looking back at 2017. Sometimes it's easier to figure out where you're going when you can glance back at where you just were. I’m not big on New Year’s resolutions, but I do try to think about things I want to be more intentional about each year. I’m a list maker, so whether it's the beginning of a new day, another week, or whatever, it helps me to jot down things I want to focus on.
In 2017 I chose a ‘word for the year,’ as many in Blogland do. My word going in was Love. Determined to be better at loving people, particularly someone who I would die for but who keeps making stupid choices. The quote that spoke to me was: “Am I trying to control an outcome in this situation, or am I trying to reinforce the love in this relationship?”
I was struck by this, because for a long time now I have been banging my head against the wall, trying to maneuver this person back to sanity. Even though I was doing it out of love, I was ready to relax my shoulders and just put the love part front and center. So, that’s how I went into 2017. And then, about six weeks later, something turned my head, and I decided what I really longed for was peace and quiet, and to hide under the covers, so I took on the word Sanctuary. Yes, that felt so much better. I just wanted Sanctuary from the whole situation, so that would be my new word. I would focus on making my house the home of peace and love that I longed for. I went about this for a couple of months. And then, this Love Challenge of mine, moved back front and center. I was once again struggling with how to love this person who was back in my space and making terrible choices. So my word became Love again, and, once again, I picked up the challenge of how to Love. But, this time it was how to love someone else without losing myself. And I learned some stuff. A lot of stuff.
Overall, 2017 was a pretty good year. In fact, (other than the diet and exercise thing), most of my efforts went pretty well, and I think it makes sense to just continue on with some of the things I was working on back then. So for 2018, my goal is to keep moving forward with some intentions I put into place last year. I haven't found a word yet for the year -- or it hasn't found me. But my list of intentions for 2018 includes:
Simple, healthy meals. I'm going to put away the cookbooks and give myself and the kitchen a break. We'll eat soups and stir fry and things I don't need recipes for.
A simple, easy plan to manage our finances.
Make a housekeeping plan that is simple.
Do you see a theme here? My plan is to make it easy on myself so that I have more time to devote to soul care -- reading, writing and gardening.
I made a reading plan that includes a list of books I've been meaning to read with space for new things that come my way. (I will share some of these in a later post).
I found a writer's group last September that gives me the support I need to keep my writing projects going.
And, I'm doodling away at drawings for the garden, so that when the soil warms up in the Spring, I'll be ready to go.
By the way, yesterday, it was 68 degrees outside when I left work in the afternoon. Unexpected. I hope all of the unexpected occurrences for 2018 prove to be as pleasant.