Monday, May 14, 2012

A few final thoughts

I know I've been blogging a long time when I can't even remember what year I started.  And then I'm afraid to look.  Because when I do, I see that it was five years ago.  Five years, that I've been trying to get it right, consistently write good posts and find some kind of affirmation that perhaps what I've written has touched someone or made a difference, or at the very least made them chuckle a bit.

My life was so different back in February 2007, when I started writing Over the Backyard Fence.  I had three young kids at home and I was a part-time-work-from-home/stay-at-home Mom.  We lived in a very quiet neighborhood, and there were times when I longed for a neighbor who I could chat with on a whim, or pop in and share a cup of tea.  I started reading blogs and found lots of women who were stay-at-home-moms and homemakers.  I started up my own blog and before I knew it, I had a nice group of "neighbors" to share ideas and stories and a cup of coffee or tea.  I even got to meet a couple of them IRL (that's,  in real life) and some of the friendships carried over to long conversations on email.

In many ways, I long for those days again.  When the month of May meant Field Day, kindergarten graduation, MOPS end of the year luncheons and counting the days until the pool opened.  They were good times.  Then, as happens when families grow and mature, things get a little more complicated.  My life looks so different now than it did back then, in many ways that I've shared on my blog and many that have been kept private, as it should be. As much as I enjoy writing about decorating redo's, gardening and my favorites, The Daybook and Friday Fave Five, lately I find it hard to be as authentic as I'd like to be.  And, quite simply, that makes it hard to keep on writing.

All this to say that I think my blog has run its course.  I've been thinking about this for some time now and have decided to shut 'er down for a while.  Having learned to never say 'never,' I can't say if it's temporary or for good. Enjoy the summer.


18 comments:

Mari said...

You know what - I'm about at 5 years and am leaning in the same direction.
I'll miss you, but I get it!
Hope you come back now and then. :)

Marilyn said...

I understand your thoughts, too. My posts are few and far between. I wanted to teach myself to do some things on the computer and I have. Still a lot to learn, but I find I'd rather be doing something else. If you are out in Morgan County, look for the barn quilts and think of me.♥♫

Lynne said...

I'll miss your blog, Karen!

Country Dreaming said...

I wish you the best! Will miss your cheery face at Dreaming though.

Good Luck and we'll hopefully see you again soon.

Take Care.

PS: When you pass through Kansas again, let me know!

Melinda

Mereknits said...

Oh Karen, I am so sad. I will miss your beautiful outlook on life. I feel like my good friend is moving away. You will be missed and I secretly hope you will be back quickly. Until then I wish you the very, very best.
Your friend,
Meredith

Susanne said...

Oh Karen, I will miss you, my twin. But I get it. I wish we had met IRL. Maybe someday that will happen. You know my email address, please keep in touch!

Claudia said...

I'm sad because I'll miss your posts. I've not been a good commenter at all lately, I just can't seem to find enough time. But I've always enjoyed reading your posts, Karen. Take a break. I'm secretly hoping you come back.

xo
Claudia

Judy said...

I shall miss you so!

Paula {Salad in a Jar} said...

I can totally relate. God bless.

Sarah said...

I've always enjoyed your posts but totally understand your perspective. I love the thought of blogging, but my reality gets in the way! God bless you on your journey ahead!

Xandra@Heart-of-Service said...

Even thought I have dropped out of blogging for the last few years, I still enjoy reading your posts. I am so glad that we met IRL, and hope that we stay in touch!

Love ya,
Xandra

Rizzi said...

I FEEL VERY BAD ABOUT YOU LEAVING BLOG LAND.....YOU WILL BE MISSED.....
BUT I UNDERSTAND IT.....I FEEL THE SAME WAY SOMETIMES.....BUT...I'M HANGING IN THERE.......SO FAR.....
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF......TALK TO YOU SOON......LOVE YA, AUNT RIZ

BClark said...

Hi Karen, Life does lead us a merry chase doesn't it. You will be missed and hope to see you back after your "vacation" . I too find it hard to blog as much as I used to, my life is quite busy and while I think about it actually doing it is another thing,lol.

Best to you!!
Barbara

Lisa Vella said...

How sad that as I am reading this beautifully written post, I realize it may be your last here on Over the Backyard Fence. You are a very talented writer, and your posts come across creatively authentic, and very much not contrived.

I will continue to check back periodically for new posts though, but if you don't return here, do be sure you are writing somewhere. You are very gifted!!! Take care and have an incredible summer!

Jackie @ Embracing My Blessings said...

Hi Karen!
I'm about at the 5 year mark too and have had some of the same feelings. I love writing but find it hard to keep up with the "community" part of blogging...which I love too. I'll miss your posts and hope you'll be back one of these days...hope the fires are far away from you too.

Jackie

Anita said...

When I started blogging, the purpose was to write; to practice the craft in hopes of getting better at it. I could not have imagined in December 2008, that I would meet so many people who are sincere, friendly, nice, and likable. You are one of them.

I hope you will keep your blog up so that those of us who still plod on can stop by with a "comment" to say hello once in a while.

Thank you for sharing your time and your life. Best wishes and blessings to you and your family.

Leslie said...

Karen.. I was thinking about you the other day, Where's "over the backyard fence?" ~ How did I miss this post!! I hope that you can just take a summer break and come back. : )
I know what you mean about families changing.. it kinda sucks. I have no family outside of my home and all of my neighbors are men ~ I also depend on the blogs for my daily dose of woman friendships.
Hope that you are having a great summer.

Flat Creek Farm said...

Karen!! I thought of you through all those CO fires.. and wondered how you were and if you were affected. And now I finally return to visit.. and, well.. you will be missed! Hope you won't leave us completely ;) I truly understand though. Bless you and yours.. -Tammy