My son dyed his hair purple. It's supposed to be a leopard print, but to me it looks like cell plasma with mitochondria swimming around. He is thrilled that he didn't have to pay a thing for it -- his friend is in what we used to call beauty school. I can't remember what they call it now, I'm too hung up on the fact that my son's beautiful blonde locks are gone and he now has a buzz cut the color of an Easter egg.
People will judge him. And they'll wonder about his parents and his upbringing. People that know he has been job hunting for a month will nod their heads and say 'tsk, tsk' and 'no wonder he can't get a job'. And part of me agrees with them, that there aren't many businesses who will hire someone with a purple head. People may wonder why I let him do this. That, since he lives under my roof, I should have given him an ultimatum -- dye your head purple and you'll find another place to live and someone else to pay your tuition. I guess I wonder, too, why I didn't say that.
Even his little sister is shocked at how purple his head is. "I didn't think it would look like that." Hopefully, it has made an impression on her and she'll never be tempted to dye her hair. At 13, she's not allowed to even highlight her hair. He's within weeks of 21, so those rules no longer apply.
He tells me he can dye it back if he gets tired of it and it will grow out in six weeks anyway. He doesn't understand why people make such a big deal about hair color and tattoos and piercings (he has none of the latter two). And I have to admit, I wonder, too. I don't think they (the tattoos and piercings and dye) are very attractive and I believe that most people who do permanent things like that will probably regret it at some point in their lives. But it seems like a silly thing to judge a person on such matters. It's also silly to judge people who are black or gay or lay on the floor when they talk to God, instead of eating a piece of bread that is supposed to be His body. But people do. They judge. I judge.
I still think purple hair looks kind of odd. But in the grand scheme of things, I've decided it's not that big of a deal. I only wish I had taken a picture of it! I googled 'purple leopard buzzcuts' and there wasn't one single picture. I guess my son is truly one of a kind. I always thought so:)
*The best reaction, I think, was a guy who saw Joe in the store and said, "Wait right here -- I gotta go get my kids so they can see this!"