Thursday, September 2, 2010

Purple, leopard, buzzcut

My son dyed his hair purple.  It's supposed to be a leopard print, but to me it looks like cell plasma with mitochondria swimming around. He is thrilled that he didn't have to pay a thing for it -- his friend is in what we used to call beauty school. I can't remember what they call it now, I'm too hung up on the fact that my son's beautiful blonde locks are gone and he now has a buzz cut the color of an Easter egg.

People will judge him.  And they'll wonder about  his parents and his upbringing.  People that know he has been  job hunting for a month will nod their heads and say 'tsk, tsk' and 'no wonder he can't get a job'.  And part of me agrees with them, that there aren't many businesses who will hire someone with a purple head.  People may wonder why I let him do this.  That, since he lives under my roof, I should have given him an ultimatum -- dye your head purple and you'll find another place to live and someone else to pay your tuition.   I guess I wonder, too, why I didn't say that.

Even his little sister is shocked at how purple his head is.  "I didn't think it would look like that."  Hopefully, it has made an impression on her and she'll never be tempted to dye her hair.  At 13, she's not allowed to even highlight her hair.  He's within weeks of 21, so those rules no longer apply. 

He tells me he can dye it back if he gets tired of it and it will grow out in six weeks anyway.  He doesn't understand why people make such a big deal about hair color and tattoos and piercings (he has none of the latter two).  And I have to admit, I wonder, too.  I don't think they (the tattoos and piercings and dye) are very attractive and I believe that most people who do permanent things like that will probably regret it at some point in their lives.  But it seems like a silly thing to judge a person on such matters.  It's also silly to judge people who are black or gay or lay on the floor when they talk to God, instead of eating a piece of bread that is supposed to be His body.  But people do.  They judge.  I judge.

I still think purple hair looks kind of odd.  But in the grand scheme of things, I've decided it's not that big of a deal.  I only wish I had taken a picture of it!  I googled 'purple leopard buzzcuts' and there wasn't one single picture.  I guess my son is truly one of a kind.  I always thought so:)

*The best reaction, I think, was a guy who saw Joe in the store and said, "Wait right here -- I gotta go get my kids so they can see this!"

8 comments:

Dandy said...

Lol, those things don't phase me but I live in an area where they are so much more prevalent. But he will get judged and he did cut down his employment options.

He is right though... it'll be grown out in a few weeks.

I used to LOVE dying my hair. i remember walking in to the hair dresser with brown hair and blonde chunks and walking out with nearly black hair and fire engine red chunks.

Frog Hollow Farm Girl said...

OMG - the trials and tribulations of raising a son! Frank(ie)'s friend dyed his hair this platinum blonde color right before he went away to college. I was a little worried about how 'pretty' it looked, but he thought it looked great and kept the color. At that time his hair was over his ears, about mid-neck length. Right now it is wavy and down to his waist, but it's his natural color. We call him Jesus (please don't be offended) when he comes out of the shower because his hair is cascaded down his back and shoulders, drying. These creative types are always looking for ways to express their true selves, no matter what others think. Your son is a brave soul - but I appreciate, understand and agree with each of your very clearly stated concerns.

Becky said...

Purple hair DOES look odd. I would, however, smile at the sight and think, WOW! there is a kid who does not take life too seriously.

AND ... we have a saying in our house that goes like this ..."Whatever!"

Actually, my favorite saying is, "I don't apologize for my grown children's decisions."

Also ... he should go to Starbucks for a job. They love free thinkers and creativity. Really, they do. And he will bring home a pound of free coffee every week ... which is one more reason to let him remain living at home :)

Rizzi said...

HI KAREN,
WOW!...DID MARK SEE IT?.... CAN'T SAY THAT I BLAME YOU IN THE WAY YOU FEEL. I HAVE TO SAY MY BILLY NEVER DYED HIS HAIR, PROBABLY BECAUSE WE LIVED ACROSS THE STREET FROM POP POP
MASTERSON... JOE IS RIGHT IN ONE WAY, IT WILL GROW BACK, LET'S JUST HOPE IT DOESN'T GROW BACK PURPLE. :)
LOVE, AUNT RIZ

Claudia said...

Well, what can you do? He's nearly an adult and someday you'll all laugh at this. May be hard to find a job, though - he will have to look at some trendy, funky place where that kind of individuality is applauded.

xo
Claudia

Renna said...

Eh...it's just hair. When my (now 26yo) daughter was younger, pre-teen, actually, I let her dye her hair purple. I don't think purple was the actual goal, but that's what resulted. I let her pretty much do what she wanted with her hair. She was a very strong-willed child (the kind they write books about!). Our battle list was long enough that I figured that one didn't really matter in the scheme of things. I said all that to say, pick your battles.

Incidentally, my daughter does now wear her beautiful hair in a most becoming manner (color & cut). Our relationship is fantastic, too. :-)

Robin said...

Kids! Don't know how to live with them and we certainly wouldn't know how to live without them! You might be surprised - he probably won't be judged that harshly. Working at a university allows me to see all kinds of "creativity"! I have discovered that the more creative kids are the more fun they are to know.
Now if he were 46 and dying his hair purple . . .

Jen said...

Madison wanted a pink strip in her hair and I was going to allow it until her cheer coach stepped in and said no....the reason I was going to allow it was as a girl pink doesnt always go with everything you wear so I wanted her to learn her lesson and get over it...he will get tired of the purple...and eventually get rid of it....for now take a picture to share with him when he is 40....:)