Thursday, February 14, 2008

Be mine?

I've read a couple of newspaper articles and blog posts today that poo-poo the whole idea of a commercial, Hallmark-induced holiday for couples to profess their love to one another. And I say that's fine. It's a free country. Some people don't get into the heart-shaped boxes of chocolates, buying cards (either funny or romantic), or bouquets of roses, just because the calendar tells them it's time. And some do, so if you do, enjoy! I hope you've found a guy in your life that understands that and will indulge you. Personally, I love Valentine's Day. I love seeing the stores decorated with big red hearts, the little candies with the fun sayings on them, the thought of some bare-butt little cupid flying around looking to strike love in the hearts of the unsuspecting. And I love that my guy knows that I love Valentine's Day;) I just love holidays and I like to see how other people get into the spirit of things and have a good time with it. It's like standing in line at the grocery store a couple days before Thanksgiving, everyone with their carts loaded up to make their favorite, traditional foods. It feels like we're all family. One of my favorite moments today was when I stopped at the grocery store to pick up a few things. In the front of the store were big bouqets of roses, giant heart-shaped helium balloons floating about and rows of Valentine cards on display. A dozen men were hunched over the card racks, looking for just the right card to present to their Valentines. I like to think they were searching for just the right sentiment to express what they themselves could not put into words for their loved one. Perhaps they were just looking for a card to bail them out on yet another holiday. I don't know. But it was just so touching to see them all -- big ones, short ones, one in a suit, and about half a dozen that looked like they had just got off work from a construction job in their heavy coats, mud-spattered boots and jeans. One construction guy grasped a huge bouquet of roses in his big calloused hand, a big card in the other and was asking the clerk, "where are the boxes of chocolates?" He himself looked like a big Teddy bear and, better still, like he was really enjoying this. Now, what woman would not be thrilled to see him coming through the front door tonight? A lot of people don't need an excuse to give flowers or send a card to say "I love you." I think that maybe the beauty of Valentine's Day is that it allows those who have a hard time being romantic to let go of their inner cupid. It's a good time for someone who needs a gentle nudge to, go on, buy the girl some flowers, bake the guy some heart-shaped muffins, be a little silly. It's Valentine's Day for heaven's sake. And for those who do these things year round, it can be one more day to have fun with it. However you choose to celebrate, it's really all about spreading the love. So enjoy;)

20 comments:

Xandra said...

That is a sweet image, and you almost make me change my mind about the whole Valentine's thing...LOL!

Enjoy your Valentine's Day!

Xandra

Maddy said...

A great image! I thought the whole Valentines thing was a big fuss but over the years I've learned to like the more inclusive way VA is celebrated out here, not just lovers.
Cheers

PEA said...

Happy Valentine's Day, dear Karen:-) I've always loved Valentine's Day also and the meaning behind it. Hope your day was a lovely one. xox

BClark said...

Happy Valentines Day, I am with you and just love all the holidays and the warm heart busting feeling it gives me. You have been a busy bee, took me a while to catch up. The last time I had a milkman was in 1964 outside of DC. I did not know they still existed!! How cool.

Best to you my friend and I am so glad you are still blogging, love reading it all. Barbara

Bev said...

I just loved this post! Your explanation of how you feel seeing all those guys standing in line with last-minute flowers, cards, etc. I've said before that I love being in the grocery when it's completely jammed and nuts and now after reading this, I get it. You said: "It's like standing in line at the grocery store a couple days before Thanksgiving, everyone with their carts loaded up to make their favorite, traditional foods. It feels like we're all family" - that's it! That's why I love it so much.

annie said...

Happy Valentine's Day!
I love it! I love the cheesy cards and all the red and pink... it's so pretty!

Dick said...

Well written Karen and the message hits its mark. All who read your Valentine blog can relate to it in some way.

I wonder if Valentine's Day is celebrated in other countries?

Uncle Dick

Robin said...

I love Valentine's Day too Karen! It's a great day to add a touch of "special" to someone's life and yet it doesn't have the craziness and spending over the budget type thing that Christmas or birthdays often have.
I love the image of the men shopping for cards - sweet!

Stacy at Exceedingly Mundane said...

Great post, Karen! I personally love holidays and any reason to celebrate, but my husband has a different point of view. Over the years, I've tried to understand and relate to his, and I do. I still love any reason to celebrate, be it these kinds of holidays, anniversaries, birthdays or whatever. Just more ways to spread the love, as you said :)

Have a terrific day!

Myrna said...

Thanks for coming over to my pllace. Don't you love that Becky girl?!

I enjoyed your Valentine's day post--I love the day also! I'll come back for a longer visit later--I'm on my way to do a little errand running, but wanted to make a quick stop to say hello!

gail@more than a song said...

I hope you had a good day Karen! What a sweet picture you painted of all those guys, kinda fun. And what's not to love about a box of chocolates! I so don't need it but would always want it.

Tristi Pinkston said...

We didn't do much for the actual day but we're going out to dinner tonight. Yeah, us!!

kim said...

One more reason why we should be neighbors--I love Valentines Day. My love language is gifts--so consequently, not only do I love receiving gifts, but I LOVE giving gifts, too! I give my boys a gift bag with at least one new book and a bunch of candy and a card, every year. (This year it was 2 books) Kerry received from me a box of See's Candies, a gift certificate to Border's Books and an Andrea Bocceli c.d. he has been wanting.
I received beautiful flowers delivered to me at work--Iris's and Stargazer Lilies, See's Candies and a gift card to Barnes and Noble books!

Our life is so busy that I appreciate a day designated to really express love to our loved ones! Loved your thoughts!

*smiles*
Kim

justabeachkat said...

What a sweet post. I hope your hubby gave you lots of goodies. My hubby wrote me a poem and took me out to dinner. I love him more today than 30 years ago when we married. (It's wonderful to be able to say that!)

Hugs!
Kat

Jen said...

I totally agree with you. Last week in Sunday School a girl on the back roll announces that Valentines Day is over rated and it is an excuse to spend too much money on a stupid holiday...and besides it wasn't a holiday because she wasn't off work. I just sat there. Staring off into space. About that time Scott puts his arm around me...he never does this...leans over and says Will you be my Valentine? I smiled...we don't do alot for the holiday but I so love it. I love the stores just like you do. Instead of getting mad at that women maybe I should have said a prayer for her to find love within her heart....
We had a nice steak dinner in the Dining Room...I decorated the table with candles and our best china and crystal....we had a ball. The kids opened their presents from us and grandparents.....memories of Valentines Day is what I call it....Love Memories.....

Barb said...

I get a little tired of hearing people complain about the commercialism of our holidays, too. It's not like anyone's twisting our arms and dragging us into the stores.

I agree with you that Valentine's Day is perfect for people, especially men, who find it difficult to express romantic feelings. Perfect excuse and we women reap the benefits!

Bill said...

What's wrong with any holiday that reminds people to be nice to each other?
As for commercialism, if you can afford it, go for it. Someone's job depends on those cards and gifts.
If, like most of us, money is tight, there are many ways to show love and appreciation. A few kind words last a long time.
By the way, weren't those metal milkboxes by the front door a great way to reach the doorbell when we were little kids?

Xandra said...

BTW...I left you something over at my blog!

Xandra

Xandra said...

BTW...I left you something over at my blog!

Xandra

violetlady said...

Very well said. I think I like holidays more as I get older. Once my daughter got beyond the age where she would go trick or treating, I kind of lost interest in it. But now that she is a mother herself I get into it again with her for her boys.