Saturday, January 12, 2008

Focus, focus, focus

Yesterday, Joe and I were working on our computers across the room from one another, easily chatting back and forth about this, that and the other. Eventually we got to talking about something I had written in my blog.

“So,” I hesitated a moment before asking. “What do you think of my blog?”


I began to sweat.

“It’s good. . . “

“Do you like it?”

“Yeah. I do. I definitely like it. But. . .”


“Well, okay. I’ll be honest. It lacks focus.”

“Lacks focus?”

“Yeah. Focus.”

“Well,” I tried not to sound defensive, but I’m sure I did. “It’s just about my life. You know, day to day stuff. I mean I guess that’s the focus. You know. Just stuff that happens that I would chat about with a friend or a neighbor. Like over the back yard fence. Get it?”

“Well, that’s fine, but there still needs to be some kind of focus.”

I was beginning to feel a bit irritated, but he is 18 and knows everything at this moment in his life, so I knew I should listen. It’s like that with teenagers. After this, it’s all downhill as they suddenly have to start learning again.

“What would you suggest for a focus?” I ask.

“Like. . . I don’t know, if I were to have a blog I would focus on politics. Yours could be humor or something like that.”

I spent the rest of the day, and way too much time today, pondering over the idea of my blog and its focus. Or lack thereof.

Following this morning’s Bible study, I made a quick stop at Office Max for shredder oil, then detoured into TJ Maxx to look for extra-long twin sheets for Joe’s dorm room, grabbed coffee filters and asundry items at the grocery store, and finally made a stop at the bank. Focus.

I continued thinking about it when I got home, switched the laundry around, changed the bedsheets, and went out back to check on Dan who was busy mending holes in the fence so the new puppy won’t escape. I had lots of time to think about it as I cleaned up the kitchen, shredded a year’s worth of bank documents and sorted through the kids’ Friday folders from school. I continued to mull over ideas as I cleaned a bathroom, went downstairs to take something out of the freezer for supper, threw in a load of sheets because the puppy peed on someone’s bed which reminded me to run over to my sister-in-law’s house to borrow her baby gates so we can barricade the puppy in the kitchen. Focus. I put on a fresh pot of coffee so Dan and I could have a few minutes together to catch up and discuss some minor issues regarding the State of the Household, unloaded the dishwasher, and made a quick pit stop in the downstairs bathroom, stopping midstream because there was no toilet paper and I had to run upstairs for a new supply. Focus.

While in the upstairs bathroom, I gave 90 seconds' thought to what I will wear to my husband’s ‘post holiday party’ tonight. It was someone’s brilliant idea a few years ago to start having the company holiday part in January – when everyone’s calendar is clear, and I weigh at least 10 pounds more than I did at the beginning of December so that if even I had something to wear, it will be even tighter now than it was then.

After taking a business call and jotting down some notes, I further pondered the notion of having a focus for my blog. Focus. And I keep coming up blank. Nothing. Nil. Nada. I guess it just is what it is. The ramblings of a 40-something (I can still say that for three more months) suburban housewife, who has a need for conversation and to articulate any given thought, even at the risk of talking to myself should no one show up to read and comment. I have to apologize to all of you who keep hoping for something more. And I thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for humoring me and sticking with me, through my aimless ramblings, the product of a pre-menopausal, foggy brain, that apparently is even more lacking in focus than I thought.

And now, I have to go “get gorgeous” and figure out something to wear!


Maddy said...

We must be twins! My brother said the exact same thing to me, less rambling and more focus. Men! what do they know?

Boomeyers said...

I live in your world and its fun to see the ride everyone else is on! Switching laundry, going to the bank, its nice to know about whats going on with other people! See- your focus is networking and sharing with other like minded people! :)

Lynne said...

Karen - I like your blog just the way it is. You do have a focus - showing your life the way it is. It's nice to see how others live and cope with some of the same problems and day-to-day routines we all have.

Xandra said...

That's what I LOVE about blogging....there IS no focus. It's as random or as structured as we would like it to be from moment to moment. The whole point is that it's not focused!

Love ya!

mhaighirtis said...

Hello Karen,

Great blog, great opening for a short story.

Uncle Dick

karen said...

Karen, From another In-my-40's-for-only-11-months-Karen,you don't need a focus if you have something to talk about!
I was finding it hard to blog and have been trying to post a comment on what I am grateful for each day. It seems to be working for me.

PEA said...

That's the fun of having a blog...just to write about whatever we want to write:-) No need to focus on any one a pre-menopausal sympathizer, I can't focus on anything these days! lol xox

Becky said...

Well, the thing is ... you are not writing a blog for an 18yr old. It's for other "aimless, pre-monopausal (or DONE MENOPAUSAL), foggy-brained mamas.

And besides, I come here for a smile and a sigh. If you wrote about politics I would stop coming.

Jen said...

I'm glad I found your blog. I enjoy your day to day keeps me focused (lol) on your life.....I enjoy reading you and am blessed to have found you.

BClark said...

Hey Karen, My focusless friend, join the club. In my opinion we do have focus, we live, we love and we nurture. Where would all those kids, puppies, husbands, etc be without our focus. You are doing a wonderful job, I love your blog and enjoy my visits. It is after all "over the backyard fence"
Keep on, keeping on. Barbara

Bill said...

Darn...I guess this means you aren't going to change the world via your blog. Or work yourself into a lather trying to make us belly-laugh every day (which you do a good job of). Thanks heavens you're not going to focus on politics...I can only escape that subject these days by pulling the covers over my head.
I'd say you're very focused on the things that being a good mom.
Don't change a thing.

Stacy at Exceedingly Mundane said...

Great post - I think it was very articulate, very entertaining, and VERY FOCUSED! Rambling, slice of my day type blogs and their posts are my most favorite, so you certainly don't have to change anything for readers like me :)

Hope you found something fabulous to wear to the party and had a great time. Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

kim said...

You crack me up. I would guess that 99% of the blogs I read would be classified as lacking focus--as well as my own! My focus is my lack of focus-- :)
Visiting your blog is exactly like visiting a neighbor over a backyard fence.
Keep writing!

Scrappy Kay said...

I love your blog, just as it is!

Robin said...

Tell Joe he is just not getting it. Tell him that we love your blog just the way it is. Tell him that having a "focus" would be entirely too serious and you would lose your best readers! Tell him that all us in our 40's think your blog is perfectly perfect.
Tell Joe that we love him, but he needs to give his poor mama a break!

Judy said...

I like your blog how it is. Blogging is supposed to be all over the place. That's how life is, nothing is ever the same.

Judy said...

I love your blog.

Mine is about how boring I am.

I do not disappoint.

Jo and JD said...

The way I see this situation is that Joe is right about focus "IF" you were creating a "web site". For something like that, you need it to focus on something.

But the what you are doing is a 'Web Log', a journal, a diary! I don't recall ever writing in a diary and having a focus for the contents. I wrote with the intention of recording my thoughts and actions for the day.

You are doing a fine job with your Blog so just keep on keeping on...

Anonymous said...

Please remain unfocused! Don't go changin', to try and please him...

justabeachkat said...

I don't know about you, but I started out my blog thinking NO ONE would see it or be interested in it except me. I did it more as a journal. It amazes me (still)that anyone would want to read my ramblings. You just keep on keeping on. I love visiting you.


gail@more than a song said...

I like what Becky said, you aren't writing for an 18 yr old! I love your blog just the way it is, and I think it appeals to lots of us. He's a guy and we're moms!
Yours doesn't lack focus but mine probably certainly does!

Angi said...

The focus seems to be your life, in all it's blurriness! Enjoy your blog, just the way it is!